![]() This realization should put an entirely new meaning to the phrase “you better get your game-face on.” Read through this blogpost to learn how to put out positive vibes to the people you meet through appropriate body language.ģ. Conversely, body language accounts for a whopping 55% (source).You have to open up your body language so you don’t give the other person any indication that you’re closed off, or that you’re only talking to them out of necessity: i.e., crossing your arms, leaning away from them, covering different points on your face with your hands (this faux-pas can, and will also be interpreted as dishonesty). Words only account for 7% of all successful human communication. Like you’re entering a monastery to learn martial arts or gardening skills from a Buddhist monk! Put yourself into a humbled, Zen-like state. Whether they approach you, or you them learn to shut your pride off quickly. Your ego can make you dismissive, defensive, non-trusting and just plain undesirable as a conversation partner (learn more about the effect ego can have on your career and relationships here).įorget that you’re the most interesting person in the world, the best in your industry, or that you have a big zit on your forehead. Either way, it has no place in a first meeting with anyone. To clarify: the ego is an outword projection of your level of confidence and/or insecurity. Our ego has a way of hurting more than helping in most situations. ![]() Learning and honing the ability to win people over quickly and create a lasting relationship with them will transform and elevate your career or business overnight. They listen intently, provide satisfying feedback at the most opportune times, and have that special knack for making you feel like they’re hanging on your every word.Ī great schmoozer is a sales genius, a marketing maestro, and a true networking master in the business world. They make you feel as if you’ve known them for decades, even though you just met. ![]() The best “schmoozers” are those special people who gain trust immediately. So how does this social dilemma relate to business, you ask? Some of you may have grown up in a very tight-knit culture and just never quite learned how to feel comfortable around strangers, and thus, never learned how to make strangers feel comfortable around you. There are many environmental reasons, that include psychological scars left by embarrassing situations we had as a child (teasing, etc.) In an effort to protect us, our parents have left many of us going out into the world overly guarded – unable to outwardly-project openness, warmth, and show a genuine interest in our fellow man.ĭon’t get me wrong, parents aren’t the only reason much of the population doesn’t know how to create lasting connections with other people. As children, many of us are taught to “not talk to strangers.” However, we now live in a world devoid of trust. Not long ago, we were a society that placed importance on the ability to win people over and make friends. Outside of direct sales, the art of schmoozing appears on the verge of utter extinction.
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